Like Mother Like Daughter
“It’s time for dinner!” my dad called down to the basement. I looked over to where my baby cousin Bradley was crawling walked over and picked him up. I walked up the stairs to my kitchen and I saw my uncle mixing together some pasta for Bradley. As we sat down at the dinning room table my uncle began to feed Bradley, with every spoonful I became nervous of him choking. Many of you will probably think that I am overreacting and I would have to agree with you. I know he will not choke but I can’t help but be nervous that he will. After Bradley finished his pasta, my mom gave him a cookie, again I got nervous and every few seconds I was nervous that he may choke on the cookie. It was very obvious to everyone who was with us that I was nervous about him eating and that was made clear when my mom stated that she had also been nervous about my younger brother and me eating when we were very young. Had I subconsciously learned from my mom to be nervous when babies are eating?
As it was said in Laura’s Log, a lot of what we learn and believe is from our parents. As we grow older we learn our parents’ opinions and beliefs and we claim them as our own. Is it possible that we can also learn our parents’ habits from when we were too young to even have any clear memories? When we were babies or toddlers were are young enough and naïve enough for our thoughts and feelings to be “molded”. This doesn’t have to be a bad thing, it just means that a lot of who we are today reflects what we saw when we were younger and what we were exposed to. Do I have the fear of my baby cousin choking from eating because that’s what I was exposed to when I was just a little baby? Although I was too young to have any memories now of when I was a baby, could it be possible that my brain “stores” the information that I learned from that age? So many teens act a lot like their parents do, could this be the reason? I am open to opinions on my thoughts and I would love to hear what you think, does anyone else have experiences like this?
